When Christmas isn’t that Merry


The days escalating to Christmas and New Year is a period of anticipation. A time to prepare for the celebration to come.  But it may come bundled with stress and anxiety. Robbing us of the joy that we should have.

So many to-dos! Getting the right presents; clocking quality time with family and friends; getting the Christmas tree and decorations up; cooking up a feast and the list goes on. It can get demanding and stressful.

Here are 7 ways to ensure that joy is not robbed from you during this season.

  • Be aware of your feelings. Don’t brush it off. Let it heal. If you are not able to spend time with your loved ones and friends for some reasons e.g. being overseas, broken relationship or if you have lost a closed one, then know that it is normal to feel down. You do not have to pretend to be happy just because it is a holiday season. Take some time for yourself to construct and sort out your thoughts. As the wise book beautifully puts it:

    For everything there is a season, and a time for every matter under heaven: a time to weep, and a time to laugh; a time to mourn, and a time to dance.

  • Have realistic holiday expectations. Know that things will never be perfect. Embrace and accept. Things do not have to be perfectly planned and executed all the times. Items may get out of stock, the caterer may be late, the oven may break down and sometimes others have plans of their own and cannot be at your gathering. Be open to new possibilities. Simply be thankful for every moment.
  • Stick to your holiday budget. But remember, a present from the store may not be what he or she wants. Before you go out to spend money and shop for presents, plan your holiday budget and stick to it. During the holiday season, when you see the people around you frantically splurging, it is easy to fall into the trap of spending more than you can afford. That brings additional stress and anxiety. A simple card with genuine words of appreciation and adoration may mean more than the gift from the departmental store. (But if you are really in the mood for buying, do check out our full range of minimalist Moleskine Notebooks, sleek LAMY Fountain Pens and timeless Parker Pen collections  ☺)
  • Plan in advance. So you can enjoy the process. Plan and set aside realistic time for crafting of invitations, sending of invitations, buying of presents, marketing, cooking, decorating and quiet quality time with people who matters.  If you plan in advance, you will avoid the stressful mad rushes. You get to do it all at your leisure.

    The reward is the journey, not the destination.

  • Delegate the task. Your husband can be trusted to choose the right gift. What’s the worst that can happen? You don’t have to do everything. Get your spouse and kids to help. Things may not turn out exactly how you want it. They may add their own twist and flavour to it. But that’s what makes life fun. For the new year, get your inner perfectionist out of that door!
  • Keep your healthy habits. It is a slippery slope. Don’t let the holidays be an excuse for over indulgence in food and drinks; Or to return to habits such as smoking and drinking which you are trying to quit.
  • Get active. Yes and it is also not an excuse to disrupt your exercise regime. Working out keeps you happy, makes you productive. Keep it up. Put on the jogging shoes and hit the road. Multiply your joy!

Finally, thank you for reading this. Thank you for stumbling into our humble shop. We hope we have helped. Have a blessed Christmas and may Love, Peace and Joy be with you always!

Ink and Paperie team